Where can I find happiness? This is the question that most people ask themselves when they are feeling down. The answer to where you can find happiness is different for everyone, but there are many ways to reach this goal. In this blog post, we will explore where you might be able to find happiness in your life and how it can change your outlook on life.
- 1 Why Is Happiness Important?
- 2 How To Remain Happy?
- 3 How to Find Happiness Within Yourself
- 4 Conclusion
- 5 A Word From MantraCare
Why Is Happiness Important?
Are you looking for a way to be happy? While happiness may appear unattainable or out of reach at times, it does not make achieving it impossible. Happiness could be waiting for you around the next bend if you just keep pushing.
Happiness might have been there all along. You just may not have noticed it. It is much simpler than you thought before. A lot of people think that happiness is about being richer or being cooler. But, it’s not! Happiness is about having a good family and living in a good country.
How To Remain Happy?
These are the four things you can do to remain happy:
Try To Improve
A study from 2007 found that happiness comes from many different places. What makes you happy is when you get what you want or when something new comes into your life. It’s not the state of “being married” that makes us the happiest but rather things like “starting a new relationship.”
Becoming pregnant and getting a new job had more of an effect on happiness than being a parent or having a job. Other things that made people happier were starting a new course, passing an exam, or buying a new house.
People are happy when they have a good relation to happiness. This includes the end of a relationship, losing a job, and losing a parent. What does this mean? It is important to figure out what makes people happy.
Positive events are often what make people happy instead of the other way around. Happiness is a temporary feeling.
What can you learn from this study? If you want to be happy in your life, you should know there is always the possibility that an event will happen to make you happy. And if you don’t feel like waiting, do something yourself to make yourself happy. As the quote from Abraham Lincoln goes, “The best way to predict your future is to create it.”
Surround Yourself With Happy People
In 2008, people were followed on how their happiness was related to the happiness of other people. It turned out that it depended on the happiness level of others. Happiness is contagious, and people who spend time around happy individuals are more likely to be happy themselves.
The analysis showed that the effect of happiness is not just because people who are happy hang out with other happy people.
According to this study, if you have a friend who lives close to you and that friend becomes happy, then the chance that you will also be happy increases by about 25%. It is also true for spouses (up to 16% improvement), siblings living nearby (up to 28%), and next-door neighbors (up to 70%). The happiness of your coworkers does not affect the happiness of those around them.
People are happy when they are around other happy people. That means that you should spend time with the people who are happy.
Recall Positive Memories
A study of 300 young adults showed that recalling memories about times when you solved problems or memories that made you who are today, can make you feel happier.
According to these results, merely thinking back to a time in your life when you were overcoming an obstacle or a time when you went through a significant life event that altered your outlook might help you feel better and happier.
Make Collective Goals or Self-Transcendence
A study in 2019 found that people who valued spirituality were most likely to be happy, and those who valued social relationships (friends, family, neighbors) were next.
People who place the most weight on external achievements (money, education, work, leisure) are the least likely to be happy. What makes people happy is not just money. It can also be about helping other people or doing things that make you feel good inside. People in the field of positive psychology say these things are important to boosting and preserving happiness.
How to Find Happiness Within Yourself
Here are six steps I usually recommend to anybody who wants to be more optimistic in their daily life, based on the idea of contentment. When you feel happy, it feels good. Feelings can be changed by how you look at them. Here’s what I did to feel happier in my life and my work:
Researchers have discovered that contentment is the most common aim for human beings. You’re more likely to be happy if you’re satisfied. Working towards attainable objectives is guaranteed to enhance your happiness as you pursue what makes you happy. The principle is from a book called Shift into Freedom. The book says that only 10% of your happiness comes from outside things, like success. According to Killingsworth and Gilbert, only 4.6% of your happiness comes from what you are doing at the moment. To be happy, acknowledge what you have and cherish it.
Enjoy Your Work
When people work, they should be happy. If a person is not happy with their work, then they should find a different job. A person might think that the money or fame from the job would make them happy, but it does not bring happiness. It is good to be paid for your work. Some people enjoy the money. But you also should choose a job that you like. Maybe there are other jobs that you will enjoy more, even if they do not pay as much?
Many people spend their best years making money for their families. But they are also unhappy. It is important to be happy too.
Jonathan Fields in How to Live a Good Life says that money matters, but not the way people might think. If you live in poverty and can’t cover your basics then every dollar makes you happy. After that, more money doesn’t have much of an effect on happiness until your living expenses are comfortably covered.
Live For Today
Do not repeat your old mistakes. The past is the past, and if you think about it, it will only make you more stressed. You do not know what will happen next, so try to relax and enjoy the time that you have now! Worrying is not good. It does not help you with anything. That is because when you worry, you think about the future and sometimes it seems really bad. But worrying can make you feel less happy and stressed. Try to live in the present moment instead of worrying so much about what might happen in the future.
This means that people should not be happy when they do something to make themselves happy. They will be happier if they enjoy the process of making themselves happy, like appreciating their life and living in the moment.
Sometimes, you get too caught up in other things and forget what you want to do. It is important to take a break and think about yourself. You need to look at your goals and be happy. Therefore, first, you need to stop worrying about things that do not matter.
You are not just one thing. Therefore, you can choose your attitude. When you fail, it does not mean that you are bad. What matters is what you do next. The conditions in life change all the time, so everything will be different tomorrow.
Change is inevitable, so embrace it with an open mind. “Real happiness doesn’t happen when you decide to be happy; it happens when you figure out what makes you happy and then do it,” according to Jonathan Fields.
Everyone is a social creature. It is wired into our DNA to connect with others. A region of the brain called mirror neurons allows us to recognize and copy other people’s behavior. That is why yawning is contagious because scientists believe it is a sign of unconscious social bonding.
Happiness and love come when you are around other people. If you isolate yourself, then bad feelings might happen. Lots of people are lonely because they don’t have friends on their phones anymore. So this is a problem that needs to be fixed!
Cherish those important to you by talking with them often. Studies show that married people are happier than single people. This means that close connections are more important to your happiness than anything else. The Dalai Lama says, “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.”
Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
Envy is bad. It will make us unhappy. Compare yourself to others sometimes, but not too much. You may only be seeing the good things about them and not their problems. Everyone has different circumstances, so everyone’s life is different.
It is not a good idea to compare yourself to other people. Other people might have a hidden story that you do not know about. When you are successful, it is good to learn from others. But when there is too much competition, it can make you not happy. You might want to focus on your dreams and goals instead of trying to be the best at everything.
Most people worry about something. But 90% of your worries do not come true. You might worry about the future, but the future is uncertain. It is bad to fixate on the worst in a situation since it will make you sick.
Learn to live in the present, rather than focusing on the future. Avoid thinking about what people think of you because it makes no difference. Instead of hiding behind a mask to satisfy others, be your genuine self. You will never please everyone; if you please some individuals, you would anger others. As a result, aim to be your finest self and you will be happier.
“If your happiness is dependent on Life being a specific way, it’s a given that the flow of Life will eventually dissolve the circumstances that are providing you joy, just like the tide washes away your writing in the sand,” according to Mary O’Malley’s work.
Develop A Positive Outlook
Positive attitudes are good. It is not easy to have one, but it is worth it. If you do, all of your life will go well. Even if you don’t understand why things happen, they will happen for the best in your life.
You might have been fired from a job. This could be a good thing because you can find a new job that might be better for you. Falling into Grace: “Most of us don’t want to be disturbed. You don’t want your quest for happiness to be difficult,” Spiritual author and teacher Adyashanti writes in his book Falling into Grace. “What you really desire is a dish of pleasure delivered on a silver platter. But in order to discover what you most deeply long for, you need to let go of the things that don’t work.” Adyashanti’s wisdom: “There’s no way to become happy. You simply need to stop doing the things that make us unhappy.”
It’s not always easy to find happiness, but there are many ways that it can be achieved. Whether you need a big change in your life or just want to give yourself the feeling of contentment for an hour, you hope these suggestions will help you on your journey towards finding joy. You also encourage everyone who reads this blog post (including those with depression) to take advantage of these recommendations and make small changes in their lives that may have a big impact on how they feel about themselves. You deserve happiness!
A Word From MantraCare
Your mental health — your psychological, emotional, and social well-being — has an impact on every aspect of your life. Positive mental health essentially allows you to effectively deal with life’s everyday challenges.
At Mantra Care, we have a team of therapists who provide affordable online therapy to assist you with issues such as depression, anxiety, stress, relationship, OCD, LGBTQ, and PTSD. You can take our mental health test. You can also book a free therapy or download our free Android or iOS app.