I need you. I want to be with you all of the time. What can I do?
When we’re needy, it’s often because our self-esteem has been hurt. We don’t feel like we deserve anything good in life – or that anyone would ever love us for who we are if they really knew what was going on inside our heads and hearts. But this is a lie from the enemy! The truth is God loves me so much more than any human being could even imagine loving someone else, and He wants to give me everything good in life.
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What Is Need?
Need is an important part of life. It is what you strive for. It pushes you to accomplish your goals and dreams, yet when things get out of hand, need can become something else entirely. Need has a thin line between positive and negative. Sometimes if you’re not careful with how much or little you have, your desire for more could actually turn into greed!
Types of Needs
There are many types of need:
Emotional Need
This type of need is usually related to a person’s emotional state. They may need validation, love, attention, or support. This is in order to feel better about themselves.
Physical Need
These needs are usually more basic. They revolve around a person’s physical health and well-being. They may need food, water, sleep, shelter, or medical attention/treatment.
Mental Needs
People with mental needs often require stimulation and challenges. It is in order for them to feel mentally healthy. This can be anything from learning new things to having interesting conversations on a variety of topics.
Spiritual Needs
Some people need a sense of spiritual connection in their lives. This is in order to feel complete. This could mean participating in religious activities or simply feeling. It is like they are a part of something larger than themselves.
What Does Term “Needy” Mean?
This term usually has a negative connotation, but what does it actually mean? This term is usually used to describe a person who is pretty dependent on their partner for emotional support. They may cling to them and be scared of being alone. They may always ask others what they think about things before making decisions. While this can get annoying, it’s important not to take offense. This is because many people don’t really know the difference between someone who needs love (and will show you in different ways) and someone who is needy (who acts like they’re too good for anything but perfect treatment).
If your “significant other” tries calling five times during the day when he said he’d call once, that’s likely an example of neediness. If she says “I miss you!” every time she sees you after work even if she was with you all day, that’s neediness. This is not to say it’s easy to just “get over” the little things that might annoy you about your partner or significant other—but do ask yourself if their actions are annoying because they’re needy (trying too hard) or because of something else like insecurity, immaturity, etc.
If someone is acting needy around you and driving you crazy with their clinginess or lack of boundaries even after asking them politely to stop doing this more than once, then it may be time for a talk. If their behavior doesn’t change immediately after talking about it calmly but maturely with them (and again at another point in time), consider what kind of relationship would work best for both parties involved before getting too emotionally attached.
No one is perfect, and needy people can be frustrating to deal with at times. But if you’re able to look past their quirks (and they have some), then they may just be the most loving and supportive partner you’ve ever had.
Different Types of Needy People
There can be different types of needy people. Some of these are:
Needy And Clingy
This is the worst type of neediness as it doesn’t allow you to breathe alone. This type is always clinging to their partner and is always scared of being alone. They also often ask others what they think about things before making decisions.
Needy And Insecure
This type of needy person constantly needs validation from their partner. They might need constant assurance that they are loved, attractive, or smart. Without this validation, they feel insecure and unworthy.
Needy And Immature
This type of needy person usually has a lot of emotional baggage from childhood which still affects them in adulthood. As a result, they act out and rely on their partner to make them happy. This can be very frustrating for the other person involved who may not have time or energy to deal with these issues.
Needy And Submissive
They want to be dominated by their partner. This is not the same as being submissive in bed, which can be part of role play. This type is often too scared to make any decisions on their own and expects others to always do what they say because they’re “the boss.”
Needy And Manipulative
This person uses guilt or emotional manipulation tactics to get what they want from their partner. They might bring up past mistakes during arguments, for example by saying things like: “You promised you’d never leave me,” even if this was years ago when both partners were very different people with a lot less life experience under their belt. No matter how much time has passed since you did something, it’s important that your significant other understand that words spoken in anger don’t count—and that you wouldn’t want them to constantly bring up your mistakes even if they were made in the past.
Needy And Overly Sensitive
This person gets hurt easily and will often be quick to take things personally, especially during arguments. The slightest criticism can trigger a lot of pain for this type as they expect others to never say anything negative about them—even though we all know that nobody is perfect! This kind of needy behavior usually results from an insecure partner who was not given proper love and attention as a child which has caused them great emotional damage. The best way to approach this situation would be through patient communication where you’re honest with each other but always try keeping things positive by avoiding any “labeling” or name-calling (unless you’re in a fight, of course!)
Signs of “Needy” People
There are many signs of a needy person, but some of the most common are:
Jealousy
This type of behavior is very common among needy people, especially those who are insecure or have low self-esteem. They might be so scared that their partner will leave them for someone else that they constantly check up on them and accuse them of being unfaithful even when there’s no real reason to worry about this.
Clinginess
This is the most easily recognizable sign of a needy person. They often need to be around their partner all the time and can’t stand being apart for even a few hours. This can be very suffocating for the other person involved.
Insecurity
Needy people are usually insecure about themselves which leads them to act out in various ways such as by constantly needing validation from their partner or by being too clingy.
Emotional Baggage
Many needy people carry a lot of emotional baggage from childhood which still affects them in adulthood. This might manifest itself in different ways, such as through immaturity, insecurity, or submissiveness.
Manipulation
Some needy people use guilt or emotional manipulation tactics to get what they want from their partner.
Inability To Make Decisions
This person needs someone else to decide for them as they’re too scared or unsure of what they should do on their own. This can be very frustrating because everyone wants freedom from time to time and will eventually feel suffocated by a needy partner who always makes decisions for them without consulting with them first.
Lack Of Independence And Self-Sufficient
A lot of needy people have a hard time being alone, which is why it’s so important that you establish boundaries early on in the relationship if you notice any “stalking” behavior where your significant other checks upon you all the time after seeing something interesting on social media—which was probably an accident! But nurturing independence isn’t only about space, it’s also important that this person is able to take care of themselves and not be completely dependent on their partner for everything in life.
Reasons For Being “Needy”
There can be many reasons why a person might be “needy” or overly clingy. Some common examples are:
Low Self-Esteem And Insecurity
This type of behavior usually stems from the fact that they don’t feel good about themselves and constantly want to hear how great they are in order not to fall into depression. This is why it’s important for everyone, but especially those who struggle with insecurity, to always stay positive about themselves without relying too much on anyone else—especially their partners. A toxic childhood environment where you were never given enough love can also lead someone down this path as kids need guidance and direction if the parents aren’t present which might have resulted in them seeking validation elsewhere (i.e., through people). The emotional damage caused by a specific event in their past can also develop into this type of behavior and the person will constantly try to seek comfort from others by demanding constant attention.
Self-Doubt
It’s important for everyone, but especially those who struggle with self-esteem issues or lack confidence, to learn how to be on their own as often as possible so that they don’t become dependent on other people for happiness as we’re all ultimately responsible for our own well being. This is why it’s crucial not only to build up your sense of worthiness but also to work towards achieving goals without depending too much on someone else (i.e., significant other). If you feel like there might be some sort of “co-dependency” issue going on in your relationship, it’s best to seek out professional help as soon as possible.
Hign Stress Levels
This usually goes hand in hand with insecurity and can be caused by many different things such as a difficult job, money problems, or health issues. When people are under a lot of stress, they often don’t have the energy to deal with relationship drama and might start pulling away from their partner as a way to cope. It’s important for both partners to understand each other’s stress levels and try not to add too much extra tension on top of everything else that’s going on in their lives.
Codependency
Codependency is when one person relies too heavily on another for emotional support to the point where it becomes dysfunctional. This type of behavior is very common in abusive relationships. It can also exist in healthy ones if one partner starts doing things for their significant other that are normally meant to be done by two. This is why it’s crucial not only to nurture independence. You should also learn how to take care of yourself first. This is before you try and help others do the same. It is especially if they’re unwilling or unable, which can lead to resentment on both sides in the long run.
Relationship Problems
If someone is suffering from relationship problems, they might be tempted to seek out comfort from their partner. This is in the form of constant attention. This is why it’s important for both partners to always remain independent and not become too dependent on each other. It is especially if one person starts giving more than they’re receiving. This can lead to relationship problems down the road.
How To Deal With “Needy” People?
There are a number of things you can do when dealing with “needy” people. Some examples include:
Be Available
When someone is constantly asking for your time, it’s important to remain understanding and try not to take advantage of their neediness. This is by always turning them down. This will only make the problem worse in the long run. This is why being available should be done so on a case-by-case basis. It is especially if they have an emergency or are going through some sort of tough situation. This requires support from friends and family members.
Don’t Forget That You Should Have Own Time And Space
It’s crucial never to forget about yourself when helping others. This is because it could lead to codependency issues later on. This can create problems within both of your lives. This is why it’s important to always work on yourself. This is before you try and help others. It is especially if they’re unwilling or unable. This can lead to resentment on both sides in the long run.
Be Honest
Remember, honesty goes a long way when dealing with people who are “needy”. If someone has nothing of value left to give (i.e., time, empathy), yet continues demanding them from others. This is without showing any willingness towards reciprocating this behavior. It is throughout the course of their relationship then there might be some sort of codependency issues going on. You should address these issues as soon as possible. Even though being honest about these types of things can oftentimes feel awkward especially during an already tense situation, it will ultimately result in a healthier relationship. This is for both parties involved.
Set Boundaries
Lastly, another way to deal with “needy” people is by setting boundaries. This could mean anything from telling them how much time you’re willing to spend with them each day or week. o refuse to do things for them that they’re perfectly capable of doing themselves. The key here is to be firm but fair. Especially if the person starts getting angry or agitated when trying to set these boundaries. In most cases, it’s best not to engage in an argument. This rather calmly explains why you feel this boundary needs to be put into place and what will happen if it’s not followed.
Conclusion
In conclusion, it’s important to remember that everyone is different and will exhibit different levels of neediness throughout their lives. This is why it’s crucial to be understanding, yet firm, when dealing with people who are “needy”. It is as well as setting boundaries. This is in order to protect yourself from becoming too codependent on them. If you can do these things, then both you and the person you’re trying to help will benefit in the long run.
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