- 1 I Hate People: What To Do If You Hate People?
- 2 What To Do If I Hate People?
- 2.1 Figure Out Why You Hate People
- 2.2 Don’t Feed Into Negative Emotions
- 2.3 Find Ways To Remain Emotionally Neutral
- 2.4 Find Ways To Communicate With People
- 2.5 Try To Not Invest Emotionally Too Soon
- 2.6 Look For The Silver Lining
- 2.7 Remain Positive And Patient
- 2.8 Seek Professional Help
- 2.9 Get Treatment For Trauma
- 2.10 Consider Cognitive Behavior Therapy
- 2.11 Opt For Detachment Therapy
- 3 What To-Do If I Hate People At Work?
- 4 A Word From MantraCare
I Hate People: What To Do If You Hate People?
We all have at least one person that we don’t like. Sadly, this is a universal feeling- from our own colleagues to our own children. No matter where they are in life, it seems that nobody is immune from the feeling of dislike. However, if you feel like ‘I hate people’ most of the time, then it may be problematic. Here are some tips on how to move forward with a difficult situation when you dislike someone.
What To Do If I Hate People?
Procrastination can happen when we dislike somebody. Maybe they make you mad or frustrated on a daily basis and you deal with it by putting off work. When this happens, what you need to do is identify the situation and rewards that are causing you to procrastinate. If your reasons for not doing work are more rational, then change your behaviors until something works. If they’re irrational, then just keep working on changing your behaviors until something changes. It’s all about changing behaviors.
Figure Out Why You Hate People
In order to move forward with a situation, it is important to ask yourself “why do I hate people” understand what issues there are between yourself and the other party. This will give a starting point for moving forward. Whether it be talking it through or removing them from your life either permanently or temporarily. The following questions may help you to figure out why you dislike someone:
- Do they treat others poorly?
- Is there a certain character trait that bothers you the most about them?
- What situations do they bring up in your mind when you think about them?
Don’t Feed Into Negative Emotions
It is important to remember that these actions do NOT help the situation.
Spilling your emotions to other family members or friends. This can be especially harmful if another relationship is involved (ex: If you dislike a sibling’s partner). There are some things that should not be shared with others, so keep these feelings to yourself!
Looking up their social media pages. This will only fuel negative feelings and will not serve as any sort of solution for the issue at hand.
Find Ways To Remain Emotionally Neutral
Although it seems difficult at first, it is possible to surround yourself with people/things/activities that DO NOT make you think of this person during a triggering moment. Here are examples of things you can do:
- Make plans with a friend for the day.
- Go to the gym and take your mind OFF of things by staying active.
- Listen to an audiobook or music that you enjoy during your commute.
Find Ways To Communicate With People
It may be a good idea to try and talk it through with this individual at some point, but only if it is a safe environment where they won’t turn violent or become angry towards you. Here are examples of conversations that could help:
If there is a situation that bothers you with them, explain calmly what happened and how their actions made you feel/why you reacted the way you did throughout the situation (give specific examples!!). Ensure your tone is not angry but rather expressing an emotional need.
If there is a character trait that bothers you the most, try to talk about it in a respectful way. Explain how it makes you feel and why their actions bother you so much & do NOT forget to mention how the trait also bothers you. For example: if they are always late for appointments, tell them calmly that their tardiness upsets your schedule and gives you anxiety. Once again, do NOT use an angry or confrontational tone!
Try To Not Invest Emotionally Too Soon
This step may be one of the hardest but once completed will make future interactions with this person much easier (and less stressful). Here are examples of ways to detach yourself from your emotions:
- Practice mindfulness- meditate and focus on your breathing.
- Start a hobby (ex: drawing, reading) that completely engages you and does not require you to think about this person.
- Do something that makes you feel good (ex: go get coffee with a friend).
Look For The Silver Lining
Now, it may seem like there is no such thing as a ‘silver lining’ in this situation but look hard because there might be one! For example:
- Perhaps the individual was in your life for a reason. So they could teach you a lesson or help fix a character flaw.
- It is possible you enjoyed talking with them before the problem arose because of their upbeat personalities/their love for travel/their sense of humor.
- You can find a silver lining in this time apart from them, such as the development of your own character/social circle/sense of independence!
Remain Positive And Patient
This process is going to take time, but with the right tools, it will be much easier to detach yourself emotionally, remain emotionally neutral around this individual, and find ways to become stronger as an individual. Remember: you can do this.
And there you have it. Although none of these coping mechanisms are guaranteed to work 100% of the time if not applied correctly (they may even make things worse). They can be used as tools for finding your own way out of such a difficult situation. There is hope and you can survive this heartbreak & come out of it stronger than ever.
Seek Professional Help
Being around an individual that makes you feel upset & uncomfortable every time may be too draining so it is important to talk with a therapist or counselor who can provide an objective point of view and help create coping mechanisms for any triggering situations. A referral from a trusted friend or family member may also help.
MantraCare therapist helps you to recognize your thoughts and the feelings that come with them. The therapist will work to show you how these feelings can manifest themselves in your life and how it affects others around you. They will also help you to take a step back from those emotions and see what is going on.
Mantra Care Therapist guides people through a process where they can reconnect with themselves within a few sessions.
Mantra care therapist is the one who helps the person to see how he/she can be his/her own best friend and love himself. A person should be able to express through actions, words, and feelings while care therapy is going on.
Get Treatment For Trauma
Trauma or emotional shock can leave an individual feeling powerless and out of control which unconsciously makes them think that they cannot do anything about what happened in the past. If this happens then their way of life will gradually change. And they will find it hard to do even basic things such as getting up in the morning, go to work, etc. This will cause a lot of distress in their personal relationships. They might stop talking about what happened with people around them which will complicate things even further. The therapist will help the individual to change their negative thoughts about themselves into positive ones which will eventually lead to being able to move on from what happened in their past.
MantraCare therapy is a kind of treatment that helps individuals who are stuck in traumatic memories and find it difficult to move forward with life. The therapist does this by helping them recognize when they’re stressed, anxious, or feeling like everything is out of control and then shows them how they can bring back some kind of balance into their life. Without finding such balance, the individual might become seriously depressed and feel disconnected from everyone around them.
Consider Cognitive Behavior Therapy
Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) is a short-term form of talking therapy. It helps you understand your feelings and the way you think, which can affect the way you behave. CBT is based on the idea that your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors are interconnected, and that negative thoughts and feelings can trap you in a vicious cycle.
CBT aims to find practical ways to improve how you feel by changing the negative thought processes that are causing your distress. It’s most commonly used to treat anxiety and depression, but it can also help with other mental health conditions.
Mantra care therapist will guide their clients through different therapies like CBT. So they become able to manage their own life without much support from others.
Opt For Detachment Therapy
This type of psychotherapy uses a technique that helps an individual to understand what is going on around them and the way they think about it. By using this method, individuals who were unable to get out of their own heads can finally look at reality in a clear mindset. This type of therapy helps the person through six different stages:
1) Introduction: A therapist introduces himself or herself and asks you some questions like why you are seeking help, etc.
2) Uncovering: The therapist will make you talk about your past and how did you feel when certain events took place. They will also try to find out if there was anything bothering you every time something negative happens in your life which makes it difficult to move forward or enjoy each moment without worrying about what might come up next.
3) Analysis: A therapist will use different techniques to understand why you do the things that you do and what is it that makes you act this way even when there are no negative events taking place in your life right now.
4) Improvement: They will show you ways how to bring back happiness into your life by changing the thought process of yours so they can be more positive than negative ones.
5) Stabilization: Once all the work is done, the therapist will sit with you one last time and check if everything has been completed accordingly and help fix any problems. If there still exists some kind of disturbance. This session might take up to four or five sessions depending on how much difficulty there is while completing each stage.
What To-Do If I Hate People At Work?
When you feel like not doing something, find out what it is that makes you want to put it off and then change your behavior. If you keep putting it off after working on the same task, try different techniques until one works for you. Don’t just sit down and immediately start doing work if you don’t want to do it. There are other ways of getting things done than forcing yourself.
Sometimes we need to take breaks when we face challenges with people who make us mad or frustrated all the time. It’s important not to burn bridges because of one person who creates conflict every day of the week. You can always apologize and take the high road if you feel like you’ve lost control.
Job stress is normal when it comes to working with people we dislike. But everyone needs a break every once in a while. If things get too much for you. Then make sure to remind yourself that your job isn’t your life. Make sure to find ways to relax away from work. Even if this means turning off your phone or taking walks outside during lunch breaks.
If you let these little things build up inside of you without expressing them. They are going to destroy what’s left of our mental health. You don’t have to talk about everything that bothers us with everyone on social media. But there are better ways of handling problems than keeping everything bottled up inside. Like talking to the person with whom you are having these problems or with someone else in your life.
If none of the things that we discussed here help you at all. Then maybe it’s time to consider changing careers. There’s nothing wrong with making a career change if this will make our lives better. It doesn’t matter how old you are. There is always something out there that can make your life more fulfilling than what you’re currently doing. So try not to settle for less than what makes us happy.
You need to take care of yourself before taking care of others. So remind yourself of this before doing anything. Let us know what you’ve learned from dealing with people who irritate you on a daily basis.
A Word From MantraCare
Your mental health — your psychological, emotional, and social well-being — has an impact on every aspect of your life. Positive mental health essentially allows you to effectively deal with life’s everyday challenges.
At Mantra Care, we have a team of therapists who provide affordable online therapy to assist you with issues such as depression, anxiety, stress, relationship, OCD, LGBTQ, and PTSD. You can take our mental health test. You can also book a free therapy or download our free Android or iOS app.