Being a better lover is often the number one goal of many people. Whether it’s to please their partner or for personal reasons, everyone wants to be the best they can be in bed. In this article, we will discuss 7 ways that you can become a better lover and have your partner begging for more!
Being A Better Lover
Marriage entails hard work. And if you want to be a better partner, you must strive to be a better partner. That’s all there is to it. Because when you commit to trying, you commit to considering what kind of partner you want to be and where you can improve. It could be as simple as communicating more effectively, making more of an effort to connect with your wife on a daily basis, or expressing more gratitude to her.
Perhaps it’s having a better awareness of your bad habits when arguing so that conversations don’t spiral out of control as easily. Or perhaps you’ve realized that you need to have more serious discussions about household equity. Every one of us has areas in which we can improve. By engaging in some self-inquiry, truly asking ourselves, “What could I do a little bit better?” and focusing on some small steps to make good relationships even better.
Ways To Be A Better Lover
Here are 25 small things that you can try to be a better lover:
1. Schedule time to connect every day
Connection is key in any relationship and this applies to the bedroom. To be a better lover, you need to schedule time every day to connect with your partner. This could be anything from cuddling on the couch to making love. Whatever it is, make sure that you are taking the time to connect physically and emotionally each and every day.
2. Let your spouse feel your presence
With the pressures of job, home commitments, personal needs and responsibilities, being accessible may be one of the most difficult things to accomplish. Making your spouse feel that you are present in the moment, on the other hand, can assist to alleviate a lot of the annoyance, misunderstanding, and other tiresome parts that your spouse has encountered. Is this a good start? Give your undivided attention to your spouse while they are discussing something intimate. Put down your phone (or tablet or laptop). Make direct eye contact. Nod. Confirm. Reciprocate. Be completely present. Looking at your mate with adoring eyes and a smile on your lips might be enough at times.
3. Focus on your hellos and goodbyes
Do you rush in and out, or do you take the time to kiss them and tell them you love them? Do I spend a few minutes when I get home — or after my work from home day is through — to ask them about their day and actually listen? Consider this and make changes as needed. After all, modest course tweaks can result in significant changes. We have a tendency to take our relationships for granted. However, even little connections can make a significant difference.
4. Validate more often
In any relationship, it is important to show your partner how much they mean to you. This can be especially true in the bedroom when you are trying to please them and make them feel good about themselves. Make sure that you’re not just thinking of yourself – try validating your partner’s actions more often during lovemaking sessions!
5. Practice responding rather than reacting
When you are in the bedroom, it’s very easy to fall into a pattern of always reacting. Because we get caught up in what feels good and how our partner is responding, we can forget about playing an active role instead of just going through the motions. To become a better lover; practice being more aware and engaged with your body movements while paying attention to see how they respond.
6. Try the compliment sandwich
We all know that compliments make people feel good. But, sometimes it can be hard to give them in a way that doesn’t seem creepy or weird. The compliment sandwich is a great way to give your partner genuine compliments while also making them feel good. Start by giving them a small compliment, follow it up with something more specific, and then end with another small compliment.
For example: “You’re looking so sexy tonight” “I love how you always take care of me when I’m feeling down” “Thank you for being so understanding.”
By following these tips, you will be on your way to becoming the best lover your partner has ever had! And who knows? You may just find that you enjoy yourself along the night.
7. Vow to be a better listener
The most important part of being a great lover is communication. Be sure that you are listening to your partner and not just waiting for them to finish talking so that you can start doing what you want. Make eye contact, nod, smile, touch their arm when they talk about something that turns them on or off – do whatever it takes to show the other person that you’re actually interested in what they have to say!
8. Prioritize your mental health
One of the most important things you can do to be a better lover is to prioritize your mental health. If you’re not feeling good mentally, it will definitely show in the bedroom. Make sure that you are taking care of yourself emotionally and see a therapist if needed. This will help improve your mood and make you feel more confident in bed.
9. Talk About Sex More
Do you want to improve your sexual life? Discuss sex more. The best method to reduce poor sex to a minimum is to communicate with your spouse about your sexual wants and desires, as well as what you enjoy and dislike in bed. Healthy communication about your wants and desires may take a lot of guesswork out of the game, provide you with the pleasure you crave, and increase connection between you and your partner.
10. Make household equity a priority
Household items are important. It is important to keep your home clean so that you can have a good relationship with your partner. The best way to keep your clothes fresh is to change them every time you take them off. And if you don’t want to do the laundry, make sure that you change your clothes regularly. Also, keeping up with regular cleaning habits will help keep the peace in your relationship and avoid any arguments that may arise.
11. Pay attention to their body language
Pay attention to their body language: This one is key! You need to be aware of what makes your partner tick both physically and emotionally. If they like being kissed on the forehead, then do it! If they get turned on when you whisper dirty things into their ear, then by all means go for it! Just make sure you are tuned in to what they want so you can give them exactly what they need.
12. Know your attachment style
Everyone has an attachment style — the way they interact with and attach to other people. There are three main styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant. Knowing your style can help you understand why you do the things you do in bed and how you can work on improving them. If you’re not sure what your attachment style is, take a quick quiz here. Once you know your style, take ownership of it! Owning your quirks will make it easier for both you and your partner to work on fixing any issues that might arise.
13. Be intentional about affirming your partner more
One way to be a better lover is to affirm your partner more. This could mean telling them that you love them, complimenting their appearance, or praising them for something they did in bed. Positive affirmation can help boost your partner’s confidence and make them feel good about themselves – which will only lead to better sex!
14. Be present in the moment
Another key aspect of being a great lover is being present in the moment. This means putting all distractions aside and focusing solely on your partner. By being attentive and engaged, you’ll be able to give them your undivided attention and provide a more enjoyable experience.
15. Experiment with different positions and techniques
Don’t be afraid to try new things in the bedroom! Experiment with different positions and techniques to find what works best for you and your partner. You may even want to ask your partner for their input on what they like. This can help ensure that both of you are enjoying yourselves.
16. Be communicative
One of the most important aspects of being a good lover is communication. Let your partner know what feels good, what doesn’t feel good, and what you’d like them to do more or less of. This will help make sure that both of you are getting the most out of sex.
17. Be empathetic when your partner is experiencing distress
One of the most important aspects of being a good lover is being sensitive to your partner’s needs. If they are going through a tough time, be there for them and offer support. This goes a long way in establishing trust and can make sex even more enjoyable.
18. Aim for more eye contact
Making eye contact is one of the simplest and most effective ways to show your partner that you’re enjoying yourself. Not only does it make you feel more connected, but it also helps to create anticipation for what’s to come next.
19. Get professional help
For some people this is the best option and can be very effective if done right, so do your research before making an appointment with anyone! You don’t want any of these tips ruined by taking advice from someone who doesn’t know what they’re talking about or isn’t helping you out at all because their only concern is getting money in their pocket. After all, that would defeat the whole purpose of trying to get better.
20. Be open to trying something new in bed
Make sure you’re both comfortable with what’s going on during sex and communicate your needs to one another! This will help ensure that everyone is having the best time possible when getting busy between the sheets, which should be everybody’s goal in life! Keep these tips in mind next time you are looking for ways to improve your bedroom game! Have fun!!
21. Invest in more time to spend with the person
One of the best ways to become a better lover is by investing more quality time into your relationships. This means taking the time to listen and pay attention to what your partner is saying, not just waiting for your turn to talk. It also means being present at the moment, instead of thinking about things that happened earlier or worrying about things that will happen later. By giving your partner your undivided attention, you are showing them how important they are to you and that you truly care about their satisfaction!
22. Set goals together
One way to make sure that you are always trying to improve and be the best lover possible is by setting goals together as a couple. This could involve anything from exploring new positions and fantasies to trying new things in the bedroom. Not only will this help keep the spark alive, but it can also be a lot of fun!
23. Talk about your desires
Another great way to become better lovers is by talking openly about our desires with each other. This can be difficult for some people to do, but it’s essential if you want both partners to be satisfied. Plus, it can add an extra level of excitement to your sex life!
24. Talk about the relationship you want to have
The more you talk about the relationship you want to have, the better lover you will be. This means having the courage to talk about your sexual desires and fantasies. Whether it’s role-playing or trying out new styles, open communication is so important in relationships!
25. Be more adventurous
Being more adventurous can lead you down the path of becoming a better lover! For example, if you’ve never tried oral sex before but want to try something different than just vaginal intercourse, be willing to take baby steps at first. Try using your mouth on their nipples for starters. Then move onto moving areas like the neck/collarbone area where they may have very sensitive nerve endings that are less threatening yet erotic! You will become a better LOVER with time when being experimental becomes part of who you are as an individual!
When it comes to sexual life, we cannot be selfish. It is imperative to make sure that your partner feels goad and safe around you. Some things that you can try in bed are: going down on her more often, gazing at her more closely every time you get closer, knowing about her needs and desires, making her more noise, and many more.
Benefits Of Being A Better Lover
There are many benefits of being a better lover. Some of them are:
- Improved self-confidence: Being good in bed will give you more self-confidence. You’ll love the extra look of confidence it brings out on your face, and that can help with almost every area of life!
- Satisfaction: When both partners are satisfied, sex becomes much better for everyone involved. This is important to even non-sexual relationships.
- Improved relationship with a partner: If you take care of the needs of your partner, it will eventually contribute to improvise your relationship with them.
- Increased intimacy and connection with a partner: More intimacy and connection with your partner signifies a strong bond with your partner. So, go for it.
With these new and interesting ideas, you’ll be able to make your partner feel like the most desired person in the world. You may have been conditioned by society into thinking that being a good lover means always going for what they want or expecting them to do something for you when all of this really just comes down to making sure their needs are met too! In order to achieve an even greater level of intimacy with your partner, try incorporating some of these tips next time you have sex together. This will help ensure both partners get more pleasure out of it and enjoy themselves more than ever before!
A Word From Mantra Care
Your mental health — your psychological, emotional, and social well-being — has an impact on every aspect of your life. Positive mental health essentially allows you to effectively deal with life’s everyday challenges.
At Mantra Care, we have a team of therapists who provide affordable online therapy to assist you with issues such as depression, anxiety, stress, relationship, OCD, LGBTQ, and PTSD. You can take our mental health test. You can also book a free therapy or download our free Android or iOS app.